1. That first article was first of all dubious, and second of all it was second hand. First it gives a scenario in which a man "gently" rapes a women. This is the woman's fantasy. And then in goes on to say, "the surprising conclusion that men generally prefer to fantasize about being subjugated by a powerful woman." Then, "Ninetynine percent of the sadomasochistic fantasies were masochistic ones. Men just don't want to dominate women in their fantasies."
That is not rape. In both cases the women and men fantasize about BEING raped, NOT PERFORMING RAPE. You must not have understood the article (probably a quick google search copy and paste). This completely contradicts your argument.
Then "Even in the few reported sadistic fantasies, Friday found men looking for women's approval. 'A man might fantasize using softly padded handcuffs on a woman, so he won't hurt her wrists, or make sure that she enjoys the rape and has plenty of orgasms.'"
Now this would be a form of rape, but notice the reports are few. If this is considered rape then we must define the nature of this kind of rape. This is "soft" rape in which the women enjoys it. But that doesn't make it any less depraved. Besides, we embellish the acts of our fantasies. We beautify the act to satisfy the desire we have. Afterall that is why it is called a fantasy. Regardless how pleasant the rape fantasy is, the reality is that if the rape were actually to happen it would not be so pleasant. It would take a very dark turn. So if you say it isn't the celebration of depravity, then it is at least the embellishment of it. And that is no better. But the very fact that there is a debate among psychologists about whether video games (or other entertainment) cause real life manifestations of the games, should be enough to keep a watchful eye at the least, and at the most get rid of such games because they surve no decent purpose anyway. All it provides is another gateway to addiction celebrating depraved desires, which may actually elevate the desires into real life.
Furthermore, "The new book details 200 of the more than 3,000 fantasies sent in, and though they are hardly a random sampling, she thinks it gives a fair idea of what men daydream about." Yeah, sure, whatever justification that can get her books sold. That is not too convincing, perhaps because it is a second hand article, or it simply is as unconvincing as it sounds. This is no decent study. The source is questionable, Nancy Friday, is a small name, but I've never read her work so I can't comment. But as I said, unconvining due to poor presentation and dubious claims.
2. Second link is unavailable
3. Dude, seriously, did you just go copy and paste google links? Have you even read these articles?
Your last link,
"As mentioned in our Common Female Fantasies article, rape is a massively popular fantasy among women. Most psychologists believe this top 10 female sex fantasy allows a woman to have the wild, dirty sex she craves, without having to suffer the guilt that often follows. These female sex fantasies usually involve a gorgeous man carrying her off to his bedroom and quickly getting down to business. She’ll protest as he tears her clothing off and expertly arouses her body, but on the inside, she’ll love every minute of it. This continues to the point of penetration, and leads her to an incredible orgasm despite her earlier protests. This female sex fantasy allows a woman to be wanton and enjoy sex -- something society rarely permits."
Again this does not support what you say. This is another example of BEING raped, not PERFORMING rape. They are two entirely different fantasies with motives that come from different places. BEING raped is less depraved (if depraved at all) than PERFORMING rape.
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